tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post1595604615714087492..comments2024-03-29T01:13:00.830+10:00Comments on Veggie Mama: Why my dear friend couldn't stand to look at me.Veggie Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09393571810604343918noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-64994962637847944192012-03-06T15:06:57.845+10:002012-03-06T15:06:57.845+10:00It was actually harder for me to talk about myself...It was actually harder for me to talk about myself than it was to hear her speak. I almost wish she spoke more, but she got it all out through her blog. I'd never dump her because it became too hard... but I can imagine it's not easy for everyone. I don't often hear things from this side, so I guess it's good I shared :)Veggie Mamahttp://www.theveggiemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-92159101693709144042012-03-02T16:03:59.161+10:002012-03-02T16:03:59.161+10:00i'm so proud that you put the effort in, to ma...i'm so proud that you put the effort in, to maintain the friendship. too many of my "friends" have fallen away because they just deem it "too hard" to consider my feelings when seeing others parent and revel in the life i'll never have, apparently it's just easier to discard me than occasionally ask me how i'm going. it's not like i wear my feelings on my sleeve because i don't, i keep them to myself but some days, it just gets too much and yeah on those days i need that hug, that phone call or text just to ask "'how are you?" or "just wanted to let you know i'm thinking of you".<br /><br />the thing i love about this post the most? that she got her happy ending!<br /><br />the second thing? that you wrote this - bringing awareness to it because there are many many who find themselves in similar situations as you and Bec did.<br /><br />xstinkb0mbhttp://stink-bomb.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-89544115968990869192012-03-02T15:23:41.714+10:002012-03-02T15:23:41.714+10:00Yeah, that can be difficult. It's not your fau...Yeah, that can be difficult. It's not your fault, but you can feel like it is. And sometimes people can resent you for the decisions they themselves make... humans are so complex!Veggie Mamahttp://www.theveggiemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-5154990877844683522012-03-02T15:22:39.456+10:002012-03-02T15:22:39.456+10:00You're right, and I'm so glad we kept our ...You're right, and I'm so glad we kept our friendship. It was always going to be difficult, but we made it xxVeggie Mamahttp://www.theveggiemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-80586595218093281942012-03-02T13:01:57.184+10:002012-03-02T13:01:57.184+10:00It's hard. My sister in law terminated her thi...It's hard. My sister in law terminated her third, and would look at my son, even though they weren't close in age, it was just that he was our third. I really struggled not to take it personally, but when it's your kids it's kind of impossible.Jess@diaryofasahmnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-67275914509199714012012-03-02T11:40:59.212+10:002012-03-02T11:40:59.212+10:00I remember finding out I was pregnant a week after...I remember finding out I was pregnant a week after my best friend had terminated a pregnancy and going through the same emotions you did.<br /><br />I've also been on the other end, losing a baby at 16 weeks when a work friend was pregnant and due when I'd been. It was definitely awkward between us afterwards. But friends support each other no matter what - in good times and bad. xxAlex aka Whoa Mumma!http://whoa-mumma.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-84413774198291293882012-03-02T11:23:23.705+10:002012-03-02T11:23:23.705+10:00The heat makes me miserable!The heat makes me miserable!Veggie Mamahttp://www.theveggiemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-60839673261669071572012-03-02T11:12:37.628+10:002012-03-02T11:12:37.628+10:00I haven't even clicked on your links & I a...I haven't even clicked on your links & I am crying! Must be the heat...<br />xMrs BChttp://mrsbcshouseofchaos.blogspot.com.au/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-63163587558365456222012-03-02T08:59:31.973+10:002012-03-02T08:59:31.973+10:00Haha, I truly never meant for that to happen! I...Haha, I truly never meant for that to happen! I'm surprised, actually xxVeggie Mamahttp://www.theveggiemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-69367487051694783162012-03-02T08:59:29.536+10:002012-03-02T08:59:29.536+10:00Oh that must be so hard. For both of you xxOh that must be so hard. For both of you xxVeggie Mamahttp://www.theveggiemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-69893696033734518012012-03-02T08:58:57.830+10:002012-03-02T08:58:57.830+10:00SAME!SAME!Veggie Mamahttp://www.theveggiemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-19138605277645748482012-03-02T08:58:56.993+10:002012-03-02T08:58:56.993+10:00You are very welcome xYou are very welcome xVeggie Mamahttp://www.theveggiemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-61671246343816569952012-03-02T08:58:55.769+10:002012-03-02T08:58:55.769+10:00Yeah, they're tough reads. I'm sorry to he...Yeah, they're tough reads. I'm sorry to hear your story... it's just too common, huh. Love xxVeggie Mamahttp://www.theveggiemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-89780781755941763582012-03-02T08:58:16.146+10:002012-03-02T08:58:16.146+10:00I'm glad we can just get on with the business ...I'm glad we can just get on with the business of talking about baby poo and teething now!Veggie Mamahttp://www.theveggiemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-73561930246713617982012-03-01T20:54:45.021+10:002012-03-01T20:54:45.021+10:00I'm crying too now. Thanks alot! xI'm crying too now. Thanks alot! xMum of Adult Kidshttp://mumsblog-lisa.blogspot.com.au/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-42799457061285259352012-03-01T18:02:02.578+10:002012-03-01T18:02:02.578+10:00Being 3 weeks away from my due date, I don't t...Being 3 weeks away from my due date, I don't think I can bear to read those stories, though I would like to and will bookmark them for later. I have had a similiar experience as my sister lost a boy at 22 weeks. She has been amazing though and we cried together when we found out I am having a boy.Bettinahttp://lovelylittleone.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-1016329721018996402012-03-01T18:00:10.365+10:002012-03-01T18:00:10.365+10:00i love you xoi love you xoKairipodnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-7663665703280099222012-03-01T14:13:08.659+10:002012-03-01T14:13:08.659+10:00Beautiful. Thank you for sharing.Beautiful. Thank you for sharing.Katy Potatynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-55730073798512447882012-03-01T13:39:59.703+10:002012-03-01T13:39:59.703+10:00I was your friend last year. I got pregnant at the...I was your friend last year. I got pregnant at the same time as two of my very very best friends and it was so exciting. A large part of the heartbreak for me when I lost the baby was not being able to share the journey with them. I don't dare read any of the posts you have linked to but I am so happy to hear that your friend has since had a little girl :)Kelly Exeterhttp://twitter.com/kellyexeternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-1348875485220434902012-03-01T13:35:43.395+10:002012-03-01T13:35:43.395+10:00Love, endless amounts, to you for writing this. Hu...Love, endless amounts, to you for writing this. Huh, I am normally so infuriatingly verbose, but you have me lost for words. I hate that you felt like you were a friend in betrayal at the time - I never felt that at all. And I felt lots of things, still do. Thankfully that is behind both of us now - never forgotten, but further away so it stings slightly less. Will post back about this very soon - my daughter's calling me yet again! Safe to say this piece made me sob into my hot cross bun, and nobody likes a soggy hot cross bun! Love, love. XBecmnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-5821939172812013102012-03-01T13:05:40.622+10:002012-03-01T13:05:40.622+10:00I understand that. I would never shy away from her...I understand that. I would never shy away from her speaking of her child, I would do anything to ease her pain. What was much harder was to talk of pleasant things, of my baby. We danced around that topic fairly often!Veggie Mamahttp://www.theveggiemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-63974022913212487912012-03-01T13:04:08.133+10:002012-03-01T13:04:08.133+10:00It is, isn't it? It surprises us.It is, isn't it? It surprises us.Veggie Mamahttp://www.theveggiemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-77611789232877131682012-03-01T12:38:56.631+10:002012-03-01T12:38:56.631+10:00I wrote about this exact type of thing this mornin...I wrote about this exact type of thing this morning on my own blog (here: <br />http://rhiflections.wordpress.com/2012/03/01/of-jealousy-and-supermarkets/). It is not easy for us that have lost, and it is uncomfortable for you that have been blessed. My most heart felt suggestion is to remember their loss. If they want to speak of it, hear them. Remember their child's name, if they lost a child through neonatal death. Tyler's name is always on my lips but people are uncomfortable when I mention him and that distances them from me.Rhiannanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-87912068914832398452012-03-01T12:21:44.493+10:002012-03-01T12:21:44.493+10:00That was a difficult read. Life is so unfair some...That was a difficult read. Life is so unfair sometimes but I am so pleased to read about the birth of her daughter xxMrs. Savagehttp://www.tinysavages.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525909913783427552.post-2089659839050319282012-03-01T11:37:57.562+10:002012-03-01T11:37:57.562+10:00Life is so damn cruel sometimes.Life is so damn cruel sometimes.Veggie Mamahttp://www.theveggiemama.comnoreply@blogger.com