Saturday, November 3, 2012

Weddings - stop stressing and just enjoy the party!



Today is my fifth wedding anniversary. 

I like being married. I like it a lot. It is probably (besides my kids, of course) the Best Thing I've Ever Done.

I was very much focused on having a "marriage", not a "wedding" and I was lucky enough to never get hung up on the day, but instead thought about what came after.

That may have been because I worked two jobs and did uni full time (including an assignment due the day before, and two exams two days after) and I had no time to think, but really - I came from a pretty poor childhood and could not justify dropping a lot of cash for one day. What a spoilsport!

I hand-made all my invitations, scored my dress for a bargain $150, borrowed my veil and used clip-on vintage earrings to decorate my shoes. I did my wedding my way and it was the best thing I ever did.

I walked down the aisle to Jimmy Eat World, played punk music for my mingling guests and boogied on the dance floor to the Wu-Tang Clan.

I made my own bouquet.

I reserved the right to do things I wouldn't remember doing later, nor why I would do them.

I made my sister my Maid of Honour, even though she's hotter than me.


I listened to the whims of my incredibly talented photographer and was glad I did.


My dad walked me down the aisle, and then I filmed a Macleans ad. 

Ok that was a lie.

I had a cathedral-length veil for a backyard wedding. Oh yes I did.

I annoyed the celebrant by only having one chair at the signing table. I also annoyed him by changing my vows to "I do", not "I will". 

I also did not tell my husband to do this... he just did.


I had two dresses, just because.

I loved my wedding day. I married an incredible man and we've made an incredible life. I had the best ladies' night before, and a day that was without fault.

Except my 18-year-old brother didn't get drunk and dance to The Thong Song like he did at my sister's wedding. I'm not sure I'll ever get over the disappointment.

It topped off a beautiful romance, a quirky, thoughtful and totally amazing proposal, and started a lifetime of love.


39 comments:

  1. Happy Anniversary you gorgeous thang.


    x

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  2. Congrats on reaching 5 years!! A lifetime of love that now has two additions sharing it with you as well!!


    x

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  3. I love a good marriage story . Love hearing about happy couples. Congrats on your 5 years xx

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  4. Happy Anniversary Stacey! Looks like a gorgeous day. I totally understand making the distinction between wedding and marriage - I was very careful to do the same.

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  5. Happy Anniversary to you both! Love the photos!

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  6. Aw, happy anniversary! Sounds like a totally awesome wedding- nice and original! :-D

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  7. I would marry you in a heartbeat xx

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  8. You are amazing! I'm so glad I got the internet back in time to wish you happy anniversary. ^_~

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  9. I'm glad you're back among the land of the living!!

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  10. Can't wait to bring my HAWTness over for a cocktail x

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  11. Lots of people don't... But it's only one day! He's stuck with me forever now.

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  12. Thank you! We are super happy, it's ridiculous.

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  13. We could BOTH dance to the Thong Song x

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  14. Beautiful. You. The day. The sentiment. Your love. Beautiful. xx

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  15. Happy Anniversary! Your wedding sounds totally perfect! My kind of wedding for sure!

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  16. Beautiful. You. The day. The sentiment. Your love. Beautiful. xx

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  17. Congratulations on five wonderful years and two beautiful babies Stacey...like you I couldn't justify alot of money for one day...the main thing is to have a marriage that lasts and someone to love till you're old and grey....have a wonderful day and night together and here's to the next five years xo

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  18. Oh geez goose bumps!!! I love weddings and I love a good love story! Congratulations on your anniversary and to your gorgeous little family.

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  19. You are SO incredibly stunning, love that you're so happy five years on. I might have to fight Mrs Woog for you though... ;) x

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  20. I think you're absolutely right. considering I'm already grey, I think I've picked a winner! Thank you so much xx

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  21. You are so kind, thank you. Love is awesome :)

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  22. That's ok, I believe in polygamy. Well, I do now!

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  23. Happy days, lovely Stacey. A gorgeous loved-up honey of a couple.


    x
    PS - is that a lace horseshoe I spy there? Oh my! x

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  24. Dance? We'd be walking up the aisle going 'Ooh dat dress so scandalous'. x

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  25. Yes! I was a little bit old-fashioned xx

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  26. Haha we could all be shakin' that thang like who's the ish xx

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  27. It takes me back, is all. I had this modern dress and cool stylin' thing going on and as I walked into the church all the Italian nonnas started thrusting keepsakes at me. In the end I hauled 4 horseshoes, 2 handkerchiefs and what can only be described as a glittering bo peep hook up with me. Stylish! x

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  28. Tears... what a beautiful love story x

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  29. Ooh bo peep hook! That's so cool. I had the horseshoe, a little bear my aunt sent and my nana's rosary beads. So not religious at all, but she would have liked it. Plus they looked pretty!

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